tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post1901464468768999126..comments2024-03-06T14:31:44.299-06:00Comments on monkeybox: Thank you NICE People!Sharahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10913201824588109760noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post-42430109343822543792010-05-06T13:30:52.386-05:002010-05-06T13:30:52.386-05:00HI Shara-
Does your mom have Power of Attorney ov...HI Shara-<br /><br />Does your mom have Power of Attorney over your grandmother's health and financial issues in the event that your grandmother can't look after her affairs? <br /><br />I'm sure there is a family caregivers support group in your area. Contact the Mental Health Dept or your local hospital social worker. You need to know all the resources that are available. <br /><br />It's so important that you and your mom especially, take extra good care of YOUR physical and emotional health now.LynnWnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post-64150821228962361902010-05-06T09:51:23.979-05:002010-05-06T09:51:23.979-05:00Shara, You sound like a very caring person! In ev...Shara, You sound like a very caring person! In every family the "dirty work" always seems to land in the lap of one or two people. I have been in this position and yes it is SO HARD! It's normal to feel the way you do. You can't keep those feelings inside forever. You'll explode just like your pyrex dish! Wish I could give you a hug in person. Yvonne<br />an Indiana LibrarianYvonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06649698442562007683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post-86705913692108614212010-05-06T08:34:09.977-05:002010-05-06T08:34:09.977-05:00This post brought back a whole bunch of memories a...This post brought back a whole bunch of memories about my Mom that I've been trying hard to suppress but of course that's impossible. She died in January 2009 in a "temporary" nursing home/rehab center (she'd only been there a week after getting out of the hospital after breaking her hip) but had she not passed she would be living here with me and I'd be insane by now. My father has been in and out of hospitals for the last 3 years and is forced to have his (privately paid) home health aide with him or he'd probably be dead, as well. Oh, and do NOT get me started about what he's had to endure in what is supposed to be the best hospital in Birmingham, AL--he's had things stolen (like his HEARING AIDS), my sister has come in and found him laying in feces, they take him to dialysis and when they bring him back they literally throw him back in the bed, and on and on and on.<br /><br />God bless you and your mother, Shara. I still remember the post you did when that squirrel was crawling all over her--maybe one day soon the two of you could take an hour or two and see if you can find him again.Vintage Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12442933020568560373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post-80132276278260517462010-05-06T01:56:33.216-05:002010-05-06T01:56:33.216-05:00Being a caretaker is one of the hardest things a p...Being a caretaker is one of the hardest things a person can do. It's like we forget about ourself and only worry about the person we are taking care of.<br /><br />Then we get tired, run down and become angry. We get mad/upset at the person for needing to be taken care of. We get mad at others around us for not helping out and we get mad at ourself for being there to begin with.<br /><br />I fully understand. I had to take care of my uncle and his "girlfriend" whom I hated. Well, I didn't hate my uncle, just the girlfriend.<br /><br />However, once my uncle died I was so sad. I wish I could take care of him again. I also felt guilty for all my angry thoughts.<br /><br />He too wasn't in his right mind towards the end and became... well how do I say this "a hand full".<br /><br />You should contact the hospital where your grandma was and speak to the case worker. Let them know your mom can NOT take care of her anymore and ask for help in getting your grandma moved to assisted living. <br /><br />She won't want to go but it sounds like she will have to. She is not safe to live alone and if you make that clear they can not leave her home alone.<br /><br />Good luck and I want you to know you can email me any time you want to vent!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />JoanneJoanne Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15550534887793382985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post-12662491731026999062010-05-05T23:15:24.303-05:002010-05-05T23:15:24.303-05:00Shara, I didn't see your earlier post, but I c...Shara, I didn't see your earlier post, but I can understand the strain and physical exhaustion both you and your mother must be under. It is DEFINITELY not easy to take care of an ailing parent, especially one who is angry and frustrated with their present circumstances and cannot do anything about it. Have you contacted your local Office on Aging to see what resources or programs your grandmother may be eligible for? Are there any day programs (2,4, or 6 hours) that you could take your grandmother to, so that you and your mother could get a rest and reprieve from the constant around-the-clock care? Can you ask other family members to pitch in, even if only to relieve your mother for a few hours? My heart goes out to you and your mother at this difficult time. I hope you can find some assistance - ask around because I'm sure others have been in the same boat and could give you some advice. Please continue to vent, and let us know how things are going. Take care.PocketChangenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post-30348453935377221922010-05-05T16:16:17.247-05:002010-05-05T16:16:17.247-05:00I'm with Carol. Whatever you were venting must...I'm with Carol. Whatever you were venting must have been important to you, so you should be able to share. So whatever it was, I am with you.Sherriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01222704976945620047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post-35340898749929863962010-05-05T12:56:28.464-05:002010-05-05T12:56:28.464-05:00Darn, I missed it! Well, whatever it was about, I ...Darn, I missed it! Well, whatever it was about, I agree with you 100%! Just trying to be supportive, after the fact!★Carol★https://www.blogger.com/profile/18048131510779563893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15117059.post-42487727255239564812010-05-05T10:26:05.144-05:002010-05-05T10:26:05.144-05:00I understand deleting it but do know I care and yo...I understand deleting it but do know I care and you can vent to me anytime! The road is easier when you have friends to help you travel it!Linda @ A La Cartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16356471099319932835noreply@blogger.com